I just spent more than a week at the Oregon coast, a place I usually feel instantly at home. Being on the ocean simply returns me to source. It’s a short cut for me.
So when I decided to go there to get started on a book I’ve been wanting to write, I expected a vacation. It was a vacation, all right. I vacated my body and moved right into my head. The mental work of framing my ideas and beginning such a large project had me set up housekeeping in the world of the mind, which happens to be what I was writing about. I got a good start on the book, but I’ve had a series of headaches from the mental strain. Not an accident, I think.
What’s just as difficult is that during the frustration and challenges of living in my head, I returned to my old ways of compulsive eating. Only this time, after having retreated with Geneen Roth last spring, it’s harder to stay in denial. Which makes the whole thing much more painful.
At the same time, I’m preparing to co-lead a workshop on mindfulness in eating and movement. It’s only a month away now, and the Simon Legree that lives in my head says it’s time to get my stuff together.
But…my heart says to simply return home. To my body. Body knows. And when I remember that….and stay in my body, in the experience of eating, being, writing, I’m home.
Tagged as: Coming home, Geneen Roth, Presence, Self-care
I’ve been on a big binge since I returned from Geneen Roth’s residential retreat last week. I’m binging on self-observation, doing deep inquiry into the very archaic patterns I slide into so easily when I’m not paying attention. The one I created when I was almost too young to remember.
My default self has a life of its own. One of the biggest defaults I experience is believing that I made a mistake when I’m confronted with unexpected events. Yesterday I got through half a session with a client who called on the wrong day because I assumed I’d made the mistake. I recovered with time enough to (barely) make it to my strength conditioning class, which was originally on my schedule. Missing this would have been staying with my default body.
I’ll be continuing the call today at the time it was originally scheduled. In the meantime there’s more food for my binge of self-observations.
The most powerful question I’m sitting with is this: how does my default self create a default body? I think I know some of the answers, but I’m beginning to think this is a question to live into. And as I look more deeply I can see how my “default body,” the one I create when I go unconscious in my life (and eating is a part of life), is also creating a default self. It’s a know of infinity!
Tagged as: Geneen Roth, Inquiry, Presence